Do your emotional reactions to news of a death, vary with the age of the deceased? I find that mine do. It is not a sliding scale of caring, but a human assumption at work: life is supposed to progress from infancy to old age.
Sifting through emotions is part of the process of writing condolence notes.
PART 4: Condolence Writing for a Death Over Age 85
As a Baby Boomer, I have parents in this age group. Dubbed by journalist, Tom Brokaw, as the "Greatest Generation," these men—and, for the first time, women—served in World War II. Unprecedented front-line coverage brought the horrors of the war into everyone’s daily life by radio, in-theatre newsreels, newspapers and magazines.
As boys and girls living through the Great Depression (1929 —mid-30’s) and World War II (1939—mid-40's), that generation invented recycling. The household norm was: if you need it, fix it/sew it/craft it/build it. My father, Lawrence, born in 1928, wrote his memoir a few years ago. In it, he shared colorful stories of his family’s frugality and resourcefulness, which didn’t diminish his or his siblings' happy childhood. Overhearing ones parents worrying about the next family meal instills a high priority on frugality and financial security through saving and investment.
With good health and financial security, life over 85 can be happy, rewarding, and challenging. Conversely, poverty and poor health impacts an over-85’s life and outlook dramatically.
1932: My grandfather's Hupmobile (Lawrence has arm out window)
|1932: My grandfather's Hupmobile (Lawrence has arm out window)|
Reactions (these may be your private thoughts, not parts of a note)
- She lived through a remarkable span of history
- I've lost a wise friend
- His body just 'wore out'
- His family always came first
- She outlived a lot of her friends
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Thank you for caring!