In a newsletter published by Hospice of Michigan, pediatric hospice programs were described. Some of the goals are:
- creating memories through meaningful activities
- encouraging goodbyes
- assuring comfort and quality of life for the child, and
- helping a grieving family find new meaning
For example: the spiritual and emotional components of hospice care guide expression during the journey to death, rather than dictate feelings or actions.
So, a good condolence acknowledges the pain and offers to listen. If the note says that you are praying for their comfort, do not tell the recipient to pray, as well. Express a sweet memory in your note, along with the hope to hear some of theirs. And if possible, you offer help with chores, errands, or bills.