Sunday, January 26, 2014

5 Things To Say When Death Strikes The Young

our minds desperately struggle to comprehend and compartmentalize the facts.  The torrent of thoughts looks something like this:
  • That's not supposed to happen!
  • Who is at fault?
  • This should never happen again!
  • How can we fill the void?
  • How can we go on living?
Did your mind race with feelings and ideas as you read that list? That's NORMAL but I am betting that nothing you considered will be helpful or comforting to the bereaved.

Here are 5 things to consider writing in your condolence note:

  • I am so very sorry.
  • I feel so fortunate to have known (use name) because ________.
  • You were an awesome mom/sister/grandma to (use name) because ________.
  • If I had to pick a favorite memory of (use name) it would be when we _______.
  • This must be one of the most difficult things you've ever faced, so be gentle with yourself.
Including two or three of those thoughts in your note will result in a memorable and truly comforting condolence note.

The Compassionate Friends is a wonderful organization of peers supporting families who have lost a child (of any age.) International in scope, groups meet in towns and cities around the globe. The website is an excellent resource for gaining sensitivity on this loss.

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